Too much lag on graal: anything needs to be forwarded?

[Daemus]

Before you say anything... its not my internet connection, i can stream movies and play other online games flawlessly and laglessly... when it comes to play graal, it takes about 3 seconds for the login screen to come up (virtually nothing), a further 10 seconds for me to actually log in and when i finally get on server selection... i choose a server and nothing happens... nothing at all... about a minute later a connecting box will come up... and a further while later it will just drop the connection.

I managed to get on graal earlier today for about 10 seconds of gameplay then the lag got soo bad nothing would work, there was about 10-15 seconds delay between "unstick me" and the "do not move for 30 secs..."
I then got disconnected from graal altogether.

I have no idea what could be causing this, if i had to guess i would say i dont have the right ports open... if its not that i would have to say im clueless...

Please help???