I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother too
But I have to ask, why do you play Era so often? If your Grandmother's heart attack is keeping you from playing Graal, then why are you able to play Era? ...
I don't think a new leader is needed quite yet. I just think that there need to be some Pirates that step up and try to help those that have RPing problems. They do not need rights to do these types of things. It's not always the leaders fault, it also has to do with the players in the kingdom.